What is low self steam and what causes it?

The beliefs you have about yourself often appear to be statements of fact, although actually they’re really only opinions. They are based on the experiences you’ve had in life, and the messages that these experiences have given you about the kind of person you are. If your experiences have been negative, your beliefs about yourself are likely to be negative too. Experiences such as:

• Systematic punishment, neglect or abuse

• Failing to meet parental standards

• Being the odd one out, at home or at school

• An absence of praise, warmth, affection or interest

• Being on the receiving end of other people’s stress or distress.

• Belonging to a family or social group that other people are prejudiced towards

Low self-esteem is a learned behavior as no-one is born with low regard. Every single child is born confident, self-loving and self-appreciating but along the way life’s hard knocks can often change a person’s perception of their own intrinsic worth.

Constant negative self-talk has to be overcome before self esteem can be improved. Criticism destroys confidence and constructive talk builds it back up again. Every single person with low self esteem has been criticised by others, usually family members, and has believed what was said about them.Then the pattern of criticism becomes so familiar and normal that the victim carries on doing the same thing to themselves for the rest of their lives. Unless of course they decide to put an end to it and learn a better way.

Yes, your true self-worth is still within, only waiting to be uncovered; EFT is an effective way to unwrap the true you.

How does the EFT tapping help with low confidence?

EFT is a great way of recovering the self esteem you were born with. It’s still inside of you, even if it’s buried deeply and you can contact it with the right tools. There are always two choices in life, would you rather be right or happy? If you choose to be right you can carry on accepting the old verdict about you and if you choose to be happy you can change.

EFT works by removing the emotional charge that is attached to negative memories and beliefs; once these are out of the way, you will be able to see improvements in the way you feel on a daily basis. Old negative programming becomes trapped in the physiology but EFT will dislodge it and allow you to move on. It can also be used for a specific area of your life where you feel inferior compared to others, such as your job, financial situation, your looks, quality of life, golf … Think about what makes you feel inferior, while tapping along.